A key aspect in building your ideal life is how you achieve what you want to create. If you perceive what you wish to do in a negative way, or question your ability to achieve it, then it is important you recognise and address this.
If you doubt yourself and speak about what you want as if it is unlikely, then you are undermining your self-confidence. You are also ensuring that those around you will also be unsure. After all, how can they have confidence in your intentions if you don’t?
It’s important that when you want to achieve change, and you have a goal that you want to achieve, you believe you can achieve it.
Focusing on what you want
Your attention and your energy tend to go where you focus your mind and your thoughts. So, if your thoughts focus on the negative, that is where your attention and your energy will also go.
Focusing on the positive, not listening to the negative options, keeping it clear where you want to go, and disregarding any negative thoughts around it, is essential to keep yourself moving forward.
It is as if you are walking on a path in a forest that leads to your positive goal. Negative thoughts are distractions – flowers or different side paths along the way. If you focus on them too much, you may move off the path you are on onto another, which serves no purpose for you.
Where your attention goes, so does your energy
For example, you might know someone who always believes that the worst is going to happen, and who keeps being able to provide evidence their position is true. They can do this because each day they look for examples to validate their view of the world.
Unfortunately, when there is potential to turn a situation around, they may not see it or reach for it as they are convinced it will never happen anyway. Their conviction, and where they place their attention, leads to the outcomes that validates their thinking. It is a negative loop driven by their focus on seeing only the negative around them.
What we focus on each day is a choice for each of us. I believe that we have more power to create and control our own future.
Create your own luck
I believe that creating the kind of life you want has a lot to do with the level of belief, planning, and readiness to act when opportunities arise. It comes from a combination of knowing what you want in life, trusting your intuition, and believing that you can succeed. By focusing on the positive you create your own luck.
Visualise the goals you want to achieve or the ideal life you want to have. It is worth taking the time to pause and reflect on how you describe your usefulness to yourself, as positive thoughts and feelings translate into positive behaviour and actions.
I do not suggest you make statements that you cannot relate to, instead start with turning “I can’t” or “I’m afraid” into “I can” and “I am and I will” statements.
Final thoughts
No matter what the situation is, it will never help you to focus on the negative. Keep focused on where you wish to go, believe you can, and you will reach that destination. Remember you are your own champion, believe in yourself and others will too. Contact us if you would like help with building your self-belief and thinking positive.
Author Bio
Deborah Knight is the founder of Xsead Lead with a background in organisational and individual leadership and executive coaching.
As a coach, Deborah aims to create an inclusive and respectful space where individuals and organisations can do the work necessary for growth and change. She is also passionate about helping women be valued for themselves while also contributing and being successful.
Apart from her company which she is deeply passionate about, Deborah also loves bushwalking, reading, travelling, and learning new things.
For any coaching or organisational support enquiries Deborah can be contacted via email: info@xseedlead.com.au or via her company website which is www.xseedlead.com.au.
